During these decades, I have carried the responsibility of supporting our family emotionally, financially and practically. That abuse once resulted in a restraining order and a year of separation after he spent a night in jail. For more than 10 years, I have dreamed of taking an extended vacation in Europe. Even past abuse leaves scars. Annie Lane’s second anthology — featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation — is available as a paperback and e-book.