But now that I’m in my early 20s and having partnered sex too, I’ve run into a problem. I find it really difficult to get off without thinking about this kink. I can’t orgasm with a partner, can’t even get all that physically aroused, and struggle to do so even during masturbation if I’m not thinking about the kink. I know orgasm doesn’t have to be the point of sex, and I can totally enjoy sex without it, but I feel like this kink is getting in the way! You say it’s really difficult to get off without thinking about it.