But I’m feeling like it’s a red flag that she continues to believe I’m not telling the truth. Once I get in the groove, she can’t move; it’s so intense that I’m doing all the movement. You’re doing pretty great already. If so, she’s free to write in, and, depending on the details of her relationship to sex, there might be. Read MoreI’d start by asking your girlfriend how she feels about sex and whether she’s interested in having any form of sexual contact.