“So that ‘yes’ to your friend moving when you've really, really been like, ‘I wanted to go to the beach,’ or whatever it was. You say ‘yes,’ because the fear of doing it and letting that person down is far greater. When I was in my 20s, I'd always say ‘yes’ to the extra shift. I'd always say ‘yes’ to covering someone who was off sick because I couldn't let my boss down. “The first thing I say to every people pleaser is that we need to turn the table around on your awareness.