If we speak our mind, we can be seen as forcing things to happen, i.e. to not let them occur naturally. Does my developed directness mean that I am now contradicting or defying the natural flow of things, where phenomena come about organically? All we can do is assess the situation to the best of our abilities, be honest with ourselves, express our feelings with honesty and kindness, and accept that there is always an element of risk given our ignorance.