People were fine about it: I have had a good relationship with all of them for a long time already and have attended many such gatherings. I cannot tell… Again, this is not a matter of “good” versus “bad” in a vacuum: they are all good and bad in different degrees depending on the particularities. The key is to not go to extremes: the extreme of approaching a subject such as this from a purely theoretical perspective; the extreme of not trying to see things from the perspective of another; the extreme of never accommodating the needs of another; the extreme of not making any effort to improve yourself; the extreme of believing you are defective by design; the extreme of always echoing what others say just to fit in with the lads; the extreme of denying your self to get some short-lived…