Definitions Self-doubt, expectations, and ideals Misused idealism and insecurity Selfhood, ownership, and insecurity Selfhood and the comfort zone Be careful with ideals We cannot become the ideal student, the ideal professional, the ideal friend, the ideal philosopher, and so on. The person who is misusing idealism gets the message that this is how things ought to be and, due to their wrong mindset, due to their dogmatism, they conclude that those are the reasons why they are worthless as a person.