Gallo talks about how to escape the common pitfalls of conflict seekers and conflict avoiders, so that you can improve your work and your relationships. SARAH GREEN CARMICHAEL: How can you tell if the person you’re talking with is a seeker or an avoider? AMY GALLO: Well, I think it’s really in the same way that a seeker might say to an avoider I value the relationship, consider that the seeker really values efficiency or time.