JULIA MINSON: Quite often when people are sort of thinking, do I want to have this conversation about something that might turn out poorly or when there’s disagreement, they are recalling the most vivid, the most painful, the like ugliest Thanksgiving fight they ever had. JULIA MINSON: Quite often when people are thinking about a difficult conversation with someone they disagree with, and they’re deciding whether they even want to have this conversation, they’re sort of searching through their memory and what comes up is the ugliest, the most difficult, the most emotionally-draining Thanksgiving fight they ever had.