First dates bring nerves; remember, if you’re smiling, and he’s smiling back, if you’re laughing, and the conversations is flowing easily – then it’s going well, don’t worry that his trainers don’t go with his chinos, give him the second date to fix those problems! Likewise, you don’t want to see what he’s saying about you (it could get messy, and we gays don’t like drama!) Step 10 – Don’t Be Too Available.