“The wheels have come off the truck!” was how one dad described how his young teenager had become. “You’re not the boss of the world!” the frustrated young person may object. Adult order can feel like the enemy of personal freedom, yet adolescent anarchy is not really desired. So, listen to argument, value the speaking up about what matters to the young person, and model and insist on appropriate language. Order as prioritizingKeeping one’s life in order can have to do with placing attention and energy on what matters most.