Even if you decide to forgo certain old-fashioned etiquette rules, Mariah Grumet, founder of Old Soul Etiquette, stresses that sitting things out or taking a step back during the holiday season isn’t the same as choosing not to follow basic etiquette guidelines. Spencer says that it’s acceptable to switch up holiday traditions, such as the menu and gift exchanges. “I would much rather you spend the money on thank you cards for your holiday party hosts and people who sent/gave you gifts if you have to choose between the two.”