When you’ve struggled with severe insomnia, like Lindsay and I did—I’m talking one to four hours of sleep every night for days, weeks, even months on end—the way you interpret reality shifts. But while I’m not condoning doctor shopping, I know what it’s like to be so sleep-deprived and desperate, so terrified of losing everything you hold dear—your family, your career, your health—that when your sleep meds don’t work immediately, or when you get strange side effects that your doctor brushes off as being “all in your head,” it’s easy to panic and seek a second opinion.