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Nobody talks about why some of the kindest people end up with the fewest close friends, and it isn’t shyness or bad luck, it’s that being easy to be around and being genuinely known are almost opposite skills
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Yet if asked who actually knows what is happening in their life this year, the list is short, sometimes empty.
The skill that makes you welcome is not the skill that makes you closeBeing easy to be around is a real skill.
Friends come away feeling good and reach again for the same person, without noticing that the exchange has remained one-directional.
Others manage to be both easy to be around and deeply known because they have built both skills over time.
Photo by dsdcw on PexelsA small observation to end onMany people who live this pattern already recognise some version of it.