I thought that sharing the same bed would naturally lead to love making every night, but he recoils when I touch him and feels insulted when I ask him to perform. He shouts back that he’s not a circus animal and that I’m insensitive for expecting him to ‘put on a show’ on command. Don’t I realise that he’s been at work all day and that he’s tired and distracted? JANE SAYS: Your man isn’t being true to you, and I don’t believe that he’s being true to himself either. ‌If he’s under pressure at work or struggling to perform because he’s emotionally or physically ill, then he needs to see his GP.