Small, consistent changes in accountability can alter the emotional climate of a relationship more effectively than one major conversation. Relationship resentment is often the intentional distance and a measure of dislike between couples. “Couples may also begin keeping a mental score of their respective contributions to the relationship, while old grievances often resurface during arguments.” “What most people actually need is to feel that their experience is being taken seriously, not to win an argument,” Welsh said. Where resentment runs deep, she recommended working with a therapist or couples counsellor as a more direct route towards rebuilding the relationship.