Yet, almost five years after being told I had breast cancer, that’s exactly where I find myself today. The reason for this is intimate and deeply upsetting: our sex life has all but vanished. What makes it all so heartbreaking is Andy really is the most amazing lover, the best I’ve ever had. Almost five years after being told I had breast cancer, our sex life has all but vanished. Of course, I googled to see whether other breast cancer survivors had experienced this but nobody was talking about it.