Executive coach Marshall Goldsmith’s What Got You Here Won’t Get You There (2007) is a rare title that feels self-evident. A partner who has spent years showing love by providing may respond to emotional distance by becoming even more distant in order to provide more. Ask the fundamental question: What are we fighting for? Perhaps it's this: to never finish discovering the people we love. And that is a good thing because to love someone is to make room for who they are becoming.