At this stage we had already said “I love you” to each other and we were discussing moving in and her first meet with my kid. Not once did my girlfriend tell her friends why I needed to have access to her phone: my painfully traumatic divorce experience. About a year ago my husband met a guy who is gay and single and a furry, an interest of my husband’s that I do not share. You and your husband have agreed to be monogamous, you’re not on PrEP, and presumably you don’t use condoms. I mean, it sounds like your monogamous relationship — or at the least the monogamous part of your relationship — may have blipped out of existence.