Rather than reactivity and defensiveness, people who are emotionally mature are self-aware of their feelings. Emotionally mature people do these things in social settings that make them attractive to everyone else1. That's exactly what emotionally mature people do, and it makes others gravitate towards them. Emotionally mature people are going to apologize and do their best to learn from their errors. People love talking about themselves, and emotionally mature people are happy to give them the space to do so.