In fact, men don’t value compliments any less than women, says Alisa Trout, LMFT, therapist and senior clinical network manager at Octave. “Compliments are like little ‘bucket fillers’ throughout the day,” Trout says. Really, the best compliments tell him something bigger: what you actually value about him. Compliments About Who He IsTrout says compliments about someone's personality and character can be even more meaningful than ones about appearance. “Everything” is cute, but Trout's whole point is that specificity makes a compliment feel real.