Parents are told to treasure every moment: “It goes by in the blink of an eye!” What both rich and poor make clear is that time balance is not a matter of accumulating free hours. New parents, thrown out of the goldilocks zone seemingly overnight, have a great deal to teach us about finding the way back in. Deema, home alone with her daughter, said everyone would adore her baby, “but no one is here to help me”. The idle hours you share with others and the quiet moments you keep for yourself are not lost time.