Dear Dicky,I feel awful even writing this because my husband is a genuinely good man. In some ways, I almost wish there was because then I'd understand why I feel this way. I can't imagine life without my husband, but neither can I ignore how disconnected I feel from him physically. You describe a good man whom you respect, care about, and cannot imagine losing. That doesn't mean you need to tell him every painful detail, but it does mean an honest conversation is overdue.