I’m angry with my in-laws about how they treated my spouse as as a child – now what? With Dr Julie Gowthorpe RSW

You’re sitting through a perfectly pleasant family barbeque with your in-laws, but inside you’re thinking, “I know how you treated him or her.” This morning, Sean Kelly, Mariam Serkal and Dr Julie Gowthorpe RSW address a complication situation: What happens when your spouse begins talking about their childhood, and suddenly, you’re furious with your in-laws? That can be normal behaviour, but the parent’s nervous system remembers, I was punished when I acted that way. The reaction may feel as though it is about the child, when it is partly about the parent’s own history. Remind yourself, “this is my child, not my childhood.”