Our sex life was pretty regular for years – normal, loving, safe. But the perfect storm of work stress, menopause and raising kids meant our sex life slowly slipped out of view. But three months after starting the testosterone, I said to Rob: “I want you in bed now.” He often jokes that I want to do it every day – which is not true – but what I love is that we now get to enjoy little moments of intimacy every day. double quotation mark Antonia needs a slower rhythm to help her reach completion, and sometimes I am too tired to do the whole routineBefore, our sex life was quite vanilla – often missionary.