DEAR ABBY: I suggested to my husband that he invite his nephew “Ryan” (age 26) to stay with us. Ryan doesn’t shower, doesn’t do his own laundry and leaves dirty dishes all over the room he sleeps in. I’m worried his body odor and dirty clothes will soon make all my clothes smell as well. I say “you” because your husband doesn’t appear to have the backbone to address this. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.