Happy and healthy relationships don’t just happen. They require commitment, dedication, and patience to gradually build trust, good communication, and respect. They’re a lot of hard work! But the good news is that it’s most definitely worth all the effort. Wise married people took to a fascinating online thread to share the most important secrets about relationships they learned only after the wedding. We have collected their hard-won advice, and we hope you’re taking notes. This is the kind of stuff that can make your already awesome relationship even better.