The deepest respect tends to be quiet: research finds people feel most respected not when they are praised but when they are given a genuine say and a straight explanation, and when someone supports the person they are trying to become

The respect that runs deep tends to be quieter, and it shows up in places most people are not watching. The tells that are hard to fakePut those two findings together and a set of low-visibility behaviors comes into focus, most of them consistent with the research even where the research does not directly test them. The quiet behaviors are harder to fake because faking them is not worth the effort unless the respect is real. It is also worth remembering that respect can be quiet on one side and simply unnoticed on the other. The deepest version of the thing often does its work where you will never catch it happening.