As such, when he dies, I’m going to empty his house of any proof of anything he might have left behind. I’m not saying this is the right thing to do, but I am saying I understand why one would do it. It feels like the best option, especially if you’ve spent your whole life protecting a sibling or keeping a parent’s secrets. It would be worth it to have a conversation that starts with, “Is there anything you know about Dad that I should know? I think the LW owes it to both themself and Oliver to have a frank conversation first before breaking up.