So here we go…They went to her son and my two kids to ask for housing and care help. He got nearly 70 percent of our assets in the divorce, I don’t even understand how he’s in this situation. “I understand that you care about your dad, but it’s not possible and this is the last time I’m going to discuss it” would be a good line to use. Your ex is unreasonable and your kids, while adults, aren’t adult enough to see it yet. Just because I know them doesn’t mean I’m interested or able to care for them, and my husband wants it even less.