Research by the Birth Trauma Association found 44 per cent of women with birth trauma choose not to have any more children, with a further 33 per cent saying it caused them to delay having another baby. So when I saw the two lines on my pregnancy test, I made a note to be vigilant for it. I was put on antidepressants and a watchlist, to ensure I wasn’t a danger to myself or my baby. Maybe I’d even have gone on to have a couple of those siblings people are always asking me about. So often, women are blamed for the falling birthrate, but it’s the system that refuses to acknowledge the complexities of pregnancy, birth and childcare that we should focus on.