DEAR ABBY: I dated a colleague when I was 22 but broke it off because I couldn’t deal with the fact that he was several inches shorter than me. In his online picture, he looks like a sweet older man now, and I would give anything to reconnect with him. Was I too insensitive at 22 to understand that I likely hurt him? -- STUPID THEN IN OHIODEAR ‘STUPID’: At 22, you weren’t insensitive; you were shallow. ***Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.