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The hardest part of watching your parents age isn’t the caretaking, it’s the strange reversal of finally becoming the person they turn to for reassurance and realising nobody warned either of you that this handover would happen without a conversation
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Most adult children are not ready for this.
Adult children avoid it because naming it feels like predicting a loss.
The being-the-steady-one hardly registers in any dataset, but it is often the heaviest thing an adult child carries.
A parent who lets an adult child reassure them is giving that child something.
And an adult child who accepts it, even clumsily, is completing a loop the parent has been carrying for decades.