What are your thoughts on partners continuing to follow ex-lovers on social media? There is a psychic threat to one’s emotional safety in a relationship when a partner still maintains connections, in some way, to past lovers. The plot thickens when considering non-monogamous, polyamorous and/or queer relationships — the boundaries here may be different. Every relationship, and every personal history that a partner brings into that relationship, is unique. AdvertisementEveryone has a different relationship to technology and social media, and their reasons for their behavior can vary.