You can use anger to actually deepen the bond and intimacy between you and your spouse. A person ruled by anger is not safe, healthy, or wise. But if you and your spouse can learn to rule anger instead of letting it rule you, it can be invaluable. If you struggle to control your anger, take a walk and let the temperature decrease. “Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil” (Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT).