You need to do what feels right for you, not others. Sit down with your family or support network ahead of time and discuss what everyone feels capable of managing. Including Your Loved OneSecond, consider creating a small, intentional ritual to acknowledge your loved one's presence in your mind. Be incredibly gentle with yourself, take the day hour by hour, and remember that grief is love and it will not always feel so tough to bear. Visit steelsfunerals.co.uk/bereavement-support to access Grief Chat, our free online access to grief counsellors and to access our support directory.