It wasn’t bad news about a family member, or an emergency at work, but a mobile payment request — from a Hinge match she’d gone on a single date with a year prior. Later that night, though, an unfamiliar account sent Amanda a payment request for “drinks.” But the surprise factor of an unexpected payment request is particularly damaging. Perhaps no one was more surprised at a stray payment request than Lesley, a 34-year-old policy analyst and astrologer. It’s easy to write each off as examples of unhinged dating behavior, but a surprise payment request may actually have very little to do with cash.