Dear Care and Feeding,My husband “Shane” and I have two kids, “Olivia,” 1, and “Bryson,” 3. We were very lucky to find a wonderful sitter, “Nadia,” to watch the kids. Instead, what I saw was Nadia teaching Bryson some ballet dance steps, and Bryson loving every minute! I angrily called my husband and asked if this was some kind of sick joke on his part. —Ballet BattleDear Ballet Battle,You’ve identified the problem: You weren’t aware how homophobic your homophobic husband is, and now you need to figure out how to make him less homophobic—or else.