As reality TV fans, our favorite refrain is that the shows we love aren’t really real. Michelle Saniei grapples with the pain of seeing her ex give his current partner the affection she never got. Sanchez, the woman at the center of the conversation, is also kind of a paradox. After watching the season, these are some questions I came away with. Nia Sanchez: My parents separated when I was six; by the time I was almost eight, my dad had primary custody.