Yet, held lightly, humor can soften painful edges, ease defensiveness, and bring a welcome spaciousness around life’s challenges. The humor I’m referencing isn't about telling jokes in defensiveness—a strategy to deflect others’ displeasure with us. Well-placed humor can soften shame, reduce defensiveness, and help us stay connected to ourselves and others. Used wisely, it can soften shame, ease tension, and help us navigate life's challenges with greater perspective and grace. The humor that heals isn't about making people feel uncomfortable or minimizing painful situations.