Yet, having those conversations early may save you, your partner, and your child from problems in the future. Some single parents-to-be and queer couples tell me that they don’t need to tell their child early because it will be obvious to the child. Here are a few reasons why telling your child before they can fully understand their story can be so helpful. Telling the Story Early Helps Your Child to Feel Secure About Who They AreWe know that donor conceived children, like adopted children, don’t want a formal sit-down meeting. These small investments will not only help your child feel more secure in who they are, and the way they were created, but are likely to do wonders for your relationship with them too.