We divorced 40 years ago, and although we don’t talk, our two children are a prominent part of my life. However, as far as revealing your first wife’s secret, I don’t think it would be wise, kind or helpful to out her to your children. DEAR ABBY: My parents had three kids. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. The post Dear Abby: I’m my families chamber of secrets.