This is what a young man who had survived a serious suicide attempt told me in the follow-up therapy. In trying to understand the suicide of their sons, the core issue that came out from these interviews was shame: “Shame for what the boys had done. A case vignetteThe parents of Oliver (18) came to see me after the suicide of their son. I asked young patients I saw after a suicide attempt what occupied their minds when they harmed themselves. Shame as a driver for suicide is not only a problem of young peopleThe parents of a 48-year-old man, married with two children, who had ended his life by suicide, came to see me.