Don’t say: “What stage are you in?” Don’t say: “I only told a few people, what’s the big deal? Don’t say: “My aunt had that…and she died…”Hopefully, we don’t have to tell you why this isn’t the best option, but it needs to be said. Don’t say: “But you don’t look sick.” When someone shares that they’re living with a chronic illness, they’re not always looking for answers—they’re often looking for understanding.