Focusing On The Tail End Blinds You To Where Reactivity BeginsAfter 35 years sitting across from families, I've come to think most of us watch the wrong end of the process. That's the premise behind my new book, 24 Hours to a Less Reactive Child. It explains how parents can lower their children's reactivity by being the thermostat rather than the thermometer. To help your child lower their emotional reactivity, it is crucial for you to see yourself as the thermostat, not the thermometer. You'll likely be surprised by the downshift in your child's reactivity when you calmly set your own thermostat to the "calmer" setting.