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Eat the fartons, skip the small talk: the same rule that keeps you from wasting a dessert can keep you from wasting a friendship
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If someone offered her an average dessert an hour later — perfectly fine, entirely forgettable — she’d probably pass.
We eat it because declining feels like more effort than eating, not because we wanted it before it arrived.
It’s narrower than that and more useful:Pleasure is worth choosing, but not every available pleasure is worth the choice.
An average conversation may use the only free evening we could have spent with a close friend—or alone.
Since hearing Ali’s theory, I have started wondering which experiences in my own life are equivalent to horchata with fartons.