View image in fullscreen ‘I learned to hate my arms by listening to other women talk about theirs’ … Amy (standing, second from left) on holiday in Italy, 2018. Photograph: Amy AnnetteI learned to hate my arms by listening to other women talk about theirs. Arms don’t have the mainstream attention of beauty standards. I put the sleeveless shirt on. I’m no longer letting my friends talk about their arms negatively in front of me.