Today’s bridesmaids are expected to organize bachelorette trips, chase accommodation payments, maintain color-coded spreadsheets and, on the wedding day itself, sometimes even mediate family drama. Meanwhile, a domestic destination wedding costs an average of $41,700 and an international destination is closer to $44,000. I didn’t even speak to her on her actual wedding day. Yet she decided to have a destination wedding in Florida, when most of us were from Texas. She canceled the entire bachelorette because we couldn’t afford it and guilt-tripped us for not wanting to celebrate her.