YouTube vlogger Davey Davey is interested in just about all things ‘sex.’ And by that, he means he’s learned to unwind his old mindset needing to be a dominant alpha-male all the time. • That led to a discussion about whether tops or bottoms work harder when it comes to sex. • When he’s ‘in the moment’ of having sex, Kage looks for that ‘something’ about his partners that turns him on and makes the experience better. • Leaning into the intimate aspect of sex, being more connected with his partners (versus just being in your own headspace) not only has made the act of sex better, but helped him grow into being a better person.