They were thousands of miles apart, and there was nothing she — or her parents in Santa Barbara — could do to help him. My world became a hazy nightmare,” Douglas wrote in her memoir of the moment, When the Road Ends, Love Builds a New One, released on April 16. That the life of a caregiver — especially of someone with a traumatic brain injury — would be a daily battle. To encourage reflection, Douglas ends every chapter with a series of bullet points she calls “Lessons Learned.” Eventually, he, Douglas, and Chapman — who has since passed away — moved back to Santa Barbara, where John continued living on his own.